Well… we’ve all made it into 2021. So much has already happened in the last 10 days…. take a chill pill 2021, no need to show off. No one is expecting you to outdo 2020.
New Years in Santa Fe, NM
I spent a couple of days in Santa Fe with a few girlfriends and the finance of one of them. As we are still in the midst of a raging pandemic, we took certain precautions to reduce our risk of exposure as much as possible. Everyone was either tested 48 prior to arrival or they had already had COVID and recovered. I wore an N95 mask for the entire flight time. Since this is what I wear when I am dealing with actual COVID patients on a daily basis, I felt this would keep me adequately protected during the flight.
We rented a beautiful Airbnb a bit outside of downtown Santa Fe. We all wore something shiny and ordered take out for New Year’s Eve. Several intense rounds of Uno were played before we rang in the new year. We were all in bed about 20 minutes after midnight. We all had a long traveling day behind us and they wanted to leave early to go skiing.
While the others went skiing, I stayed home with my friend’s dog and fox. Yes, you read that correctly. My friend has a pet fox. I binge-watched Bridgerton on Netflix and read the book I’ve been waiting to have some time for, “Uncomfortable Conversations with a Black Man” by Emmanuel Acho.
A day downtown
On one of the days, my friend and I checked out downtown Santa Fe. New Mexico has admirably implemented several restrictions to help stop the spread of Covid. You have to wear a mask when walking around, even outside. On our last day, we had time to kill and wanted to check out the Albuquerque Zoo… it was only open to New Mexican residents!
Almost all of the museums were closed but we did manage to get some of the limited tickets for the Museum of Contemporary Native Arts. My favorite exhibition was probably “Indigenous Futurisms: Transcending Past/Present/Future”. The artists combined traditional Native American artforms with the subjects of Star Wars, Startrek, and the likes. Check out some pictures on the website by clicking here!
Most of the shops were open. We browsed through Native American made jewelry, pottery and artwork. There were so many beautiful things. If I actually had a house to outfit with things, I probably would’ve bought a piece of the intricately painted black & white pottery.
Santa Fe is VERY artsy. Many of the shops are also galleries. Then there is Canyon Road, just a few blocks from the main street. It apparently has over one hundred galleries, boutiques and restaurants in one-half mile. The road is filled with colorful sculptures and artwork!
The adobe-style buildings are quite visually pleasing. I recommend coming back during warmer weather however because, without any greenery or blooming flowers, the scene is quite monotone. I’m sure the main square is a great place to spend time in a warm, post-pandemic time.
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Back at work, things have been relatively slow this past week. Overall, the system seems to be less full. The number of COVID patients in the large hospital was down substantially. Many of the smaller surrounding hospitals either had only 1 or no COVID positive patients. That is really nice to see considering healthcare is still wary about the aftermath of Christmas and New Years’. We aren’t quite out of the window of that surge but the trend looks good right now. During a meeting, we were told that South Dakota had vaccinated the most people per capita compared to all other states in the nation! Considering how hesitant a majority of the out-and-about public seems about following safety guidelines, that was great to hear.
Uncomfortable Conversations
I was contemplating starting to share insights from my time as a model and how that has positively influenced my life, but then this week was just so crazy in American history, and having just finished my book, I wanted to speak about the book real quick instead.
For those of you who haven’t heard about this or haven’t watched the YouTube episodes, please do! Emmanuel Acho is a former NFL player of Nigerian descent. During the protests this Spring/Summer, he started making episodes called “Uncomfortable Conversations with a Black Man”. I eagerly awaited his new episodes week after week.
In them, Emmanuel sits down with various people to discuss “uncomfortable” topics related to being black in America. He has an episode about interracial couples, interracial adoption, a conversation with the NFL commissioner, one with Chelsea Handler, and an episode where he sits down with the police officers from the Petaluma Police Department in Petaluma, CA. Any a few more! {Click on the hyperlinks to see the videos!} As you can imagine, each of these conversations can touch on many subjects. The cool thing is that he creates a safe place to talk, to ask questions, and does so with an open heart.
My Life
Growing up in a small town in Wisconsin, we did not have a lot of racial diversity. You could count the number of black students in my high school on one hand. My experience was a bit different from my peers as I had a bit more exposure to different cultures. I myself was an immigrant and traveled frequently. I also have a love for other cultures and people who are different from me. Learning about other people’s cultures is one of my favorite things. Admittedly, I didn’t find myself immersed more in American black culture until I moved to Germany and ended up befriending a lot of the American basketball players overseas on contract. I learned a lot from them. Then, when I moved to Miami for a year, I learned more!
I’ve dated a few black men in the past and so the episode Emmanuel did about interracial couples was especially interesting. I could relate to a lot of the internal struggles Lindsey Vonn spoke on. There is so much we are afraid to ask or talk about because we are afraid to offend or come off the wrong way. But if we don’t ask, we can not truly learn. You can read all the text books on a topic but it really becomes real when you live it. I have made mistakes in the past and I have learned from them. Through asking questions, being observant and willing to listen, I have learned how I can be a more respectful, understanding person/friend/partner and ally.
Get started!
If you have been watching the social movement and have wondered how you can be more informed, I highly recommend Emmanuel’s book! It is easy to read through, gives examples of many great resources to further your learning if you so wish, and makes you look at your own way of living, and hopefully encourages you to make some positive changes. It is not intimidatingly dense and reads as though you were indeed having a conversation with Emmanuel.
It’s called uncomfortable conversations. I didn’t find them uncomfortable because I was so eager to learn and hear the conversation. My culture has a not so distant horrific history. What I admire about Germany is its openness about what happened, its emphasis on teaching it, and in doing so, hopefully preventing it from happening again. The USA could learn a thing or two from Germany on how to deal with its own horrific history.
Acknowledging your country has a problem doesn’t mean you can’t still be super proud to be from that country and love it for all its goodness. It makes your relationship with your country more real if you acknowledge the flaws. If you are only looking at the pretty surface and pomp and circumstance, your relationship to your country is comparable with that of you and your celebrity crush. You can’t truly love something until you love it for all it is.
Small things add up too
I can’t give up all my time to immerse myself in the civil rights movement of America or drop everything and enroll in African American Studies (although if you are currently in college and have the option, do take a class!). There are also many other critically important issues I am passionate about and am trying to learn about and support including international healthcare and the climate crisis. However, I can try to find things I can improve on or learn in my daily life. Emmanuel’s book was a great choice and gives me so many sources to follow it up with. The following list is some of the things I’m doing or have done. I list them not to “brag” about what I’ve done but to hopefully inspire you to look at your day to day life and see what changes you can make.
- following several sites on Instagram related to the BLM movement and antiracism. This gives me little doses of information while scrolling through my feed.
- trying to be more aware and support black businesses whenever I can
- calling my black friends and having some serious conversations with them and also checking in on their well being
- during my last month in residency, I organized a panel discussion with some of my black patients so that my co-residents and attendings and I (none of which are black) could have some real talk conversations with my patients and a black surgeon about what it means to be black in a predominantly white healthcare system.
- I used the gift card the Medical Education department gave us for graduating residency to bulk order bandaids in 4 different skin tones for all of our exam rooms and lab. Ever think about how those Bandaids are white skin toned by default? With about 30% black patients and many pediatric patients coming in for shots, I wanted them to have matching bandaids for their skin color.
I continue to look for ways to be a better person and citizen of this Earth daily. From where I spend my money, recycling, lifestyle, personal relationships and really just about every aspect of life. I hope you do too 🙂
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